Tuesday 16 January 2018

The birthday Conundrum

I suppose this is not a post you should be expecting, I am just trying to figure something out. And I hope you guys can help me.
Ok so first off I guess I need to tell you some basic stuff, I am a quite an introvert in my life and have never liked being in public places ever. I guess some problems are because of me being a crossdresser and not feeling good in my own body adds to these troubles. Like every other person I too have a fear of people judging me, yes it is to a next level but I guess I can’t help that.
So yesterday I had my birthday. Being an introvert I have never like being in the light and having a birthday is like having the lighthouse point at you in the darkest night.
My parents at least my father loves to go out and have a fun time. And I always admire him for that. But that’s where the problem lies too. My father although now is go with me not having a birthday party an more still wants me to go out with them to a restaurant (which I really really despise).
We always end up having an argument about going to a freaking restaurant!!! I really hate myself for not going as I know that the pros of going to the restaurant and eating the freshly made food is much better than having it packed and bought home.

So now whatever the case maybe I always end up being miserable. I am here to get advice from you guys now, what do I do… one thing is for sure the self-loathing is not going away for sure .

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  1. Sally Bend16 January 2018 at 07:02

    I can empathize, hon. I'm very much an introvert myself and don't do well with crowds or busy places. A few suggestions I use to deal with outings like that is:

    (1) check out some restaurants ahead of time (just peek in the window if you have to) to find one where you might be able to feel comfortable
    (2) ask for a seat in a corner booth, where you can have your back to the wall, and not feel so surrounded
    (3) eat an hour earlier or later than most people, or go on a quieter day (midweek), so you can be there when it's not as busy
    (4) negotiate with your dad, tell him you're sacrificing your comfort to spend dinner with him, tell him you appreciate the invitation, and ask that he not do anything to draw attention (no birthday songs, candles, balloons, etc.)

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    1. preetisissy16 January 2018 at 21:34

      thanks for the advice sally...i will be sure to try those, i have talked to my parents a lot of the times about this and i know they just wanted to celebrate my birthday still love them with all my heart.

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  2. Unknown24 February 2018 at 00:48

    hi preeti ,Just wanted to ask if i can reach you on faebook?

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    1. preetisissy28 May 2018 at 06:32

      Hey suhani...I would love to connect my link is : https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100021316209516

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